Personal Growth Mentoring Is Often The Key To Self Fulfilment

By Carolyn Hayes


Millions of people in developed countries no longer have to continually fight for shelter and for the next meal. For them, all the basic requirements of a relatively comfortable life are available permanently. Many of these people develop other needs, especially the need for self fulfilment. They are looking for a deeper meaning in life and they often experiment with various theories and philosophies. However, in order to keep developing, numerous individuals opt for personal growth mentoring.

When a desire for higher levels of self actualization develops, many people are not sure how to go about it. Some people explore different religions while others study different philosophies. Others attend courses or they involve themselves in community work. This is all done in the vague wish to discover the meaning of life. Getting help from a mentor can help such people pinpoint their own desires and needs.

It is vital to understand and to accept that no mentor can offer a secret towards self fulfilment and happiness. These are things that can only be discovered on a very private level. The role of the mentor is not to offer instant solutions. Rather, his role is to help his client to discover himself and to identify his own needs and wants. This will be different for every person.

The first step recommended by most mentors is to go through the difficult and often painful process of total self discovery. Most people tend to see themselves in a very specific light and they often do not even want to dig deeper into their own personalities. This is a necessary process, however, if one is to discover the areas that will eventually lead to higher levels of self fulfilment.

Once the client has determined the life areas where he want to develop, it is necessary to set very specific objectives. Too many people never achieve their goals because they are vague about what exactly it is that they want. If a person wants to lose weight it is not good stating that one wants to lose weight. It is necessary to also stipulate exactly how much weight and by which target date.

Even when they have set proper goals, many people become discouraged when they do not perceive progress. That is why the mentor will help his clients to break down each goal into small little steps that can be achieved quickly. This will help the client to realize that he is indeed making progress towards the finishing line.

For a mentor to be effective their need to be a strong relationship of trust between him and his client. The client needs to know that his secrets are safe and the mentor must foster a relationship where the client will be completely honest. If such a relationship does not develop, it may be better to find another mentor. Some individuals change mentor at regular intervals.

Man will always strive to be better and happier. The desire for self actualization is not an unhealthy thing. People that experience self fulfilment are more mature and productive. They are more aware of their environments and they are more like to make a positive contribution to society.




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